October 3, 2019

Cheeseburgers in Paradise


HONESTY POLL:

To those of you who have been adulting for more than seven minutes...
When someone shows their appreciation for a kind act or job well done,
are you more or less likely to repeat your appreciated behavior?


⏹ I would be more inclined to repeat behavior, knowing my efforts are being
recognized and appreciated. 
⏹ Another person's appreciation of my work or activities has no bearing
on my performance level. 

Regardless of your own response, being in a healthy relationship means
knowing how your partner would answer this question.
If you're a person who requires daily affirmations from others and
your partner has never once thanked you for sending his mother a
birthday card (from him) for the past 11 years.
Without feeling appreciated, over time you may start to feel
taken for granted, maybe even bitter. 

Here's where it gets personal. 

Our family has been undergoing major changes over the past year,
the majority of which are confidential until they're not.
If you're close to us, you know what's up.
To say we have a few pans in the fire is fairly appropriate.
Lots of stress. Not all stress is bad. Self-care is possible. Yadda, yadda.

Today the hubby and I were discussing life, as it were, recalibrating our pages,
prioritizing fires, and an argument ensued.
Really, what's the likelihood of someone raising their voice,
being stubborn or reacting emotionally disproportionately in a home
where 86% of the residents have some form of PTSD (jury is still out on the service dog)?

But hey.
It bonds us. 
We get each other.
We're honest about our crap.
We help each other. 
We love each other.

Somewhere amidst this intense discussion with the hubby, I did receive his message.
He was feeling unappreciated for his contributions to our home.
My response was an encouraging, "welcome to my world."
Obviously not my proudest wife moment.

The truth is, my husband does more than he physically and medically is able to,
and I know with certainty that I'm not the only one in our home who appreciates him.
I'm just here to tell my husband, in this public forum, how truly appreciated he is. 

Babe, you're seriously my rock. I couldn't manage this circus without you.
I wouldn't want to. I appreciate you so much. 

I really wish I could give you the gift of an orthopedic referral from the VA,
but I might have my sights set too high.
So instead of, or until that happens, I will just thank you from the bottom of my heart
for everything you do for our family.
I love you infinitely and appreciate your guts out. (In this house, that's actually a thing...)

Thank you for carrying the load when I can't, and sharing it when I can. 

#herniateddisc #communitycare #missionactION #wearefamily #endthestigma #angusburgermeanslove

LOVE cheeseburger, inspired by the chef of all burger creations - my husband

Shot Through the Heart cheeseburger, inspired by Bon Jovi

Don't Worry Be Happy cheeseburger, inspired by Bobby McFerrin

This Kiss cheeseburger, inspired by Faith Hill

El Fuego, inspired by the idea we had s'mores supplies on-hand.
S'mores bummer.
Great fire though.



Future Jesus Warriors, inspiration from God










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